First and Goal Seminars

Your Questions About Relationship Advice

Mama E — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 20:09:54 +0000

Susan asks…

Relationship Advice?

What are some good advice or just tips to having a healthy relationship?

Mama E answers:

If if was possible to mandate compliance with the strongest relationship builder it would be commitment. Total commitment to the relationship and each other and the priority would shift, depending on the situation.
Next would be communication, two-way, interactive communication between the relationship partners.

Be blessed…

First and Goal Seminars…What Is First and Goal, Really?

Mama E — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 19:27:09 +0000

What is First and Goal?

It all began the year that the Colts and the Bears played in the Super Bowl. IHM founder, Estelle Keese AKA, the Internet’s Mama E, was teaching a class on Super Bowl Sunday. … Talk about dedication to a mission!

In Mama E’s words, “This was a group of singles and couples who had come together on Super Bowl Sunday to witness the first ever First And Goal Focus Group. This was the beginning session of a concept that grew to become First And Goal Seminars. This very energetic group of men and women had come together to talk about their relationships. The purpose was more about relationship enhancement than to provide a fix or mend “problem” relationships.

My idea was to use the American style of football terms and situations from how the game is played to focus on strengthening relationships. Football can become a more perfect medium than one would imagine, for creating analogies for couples interactions during their experience of a relationship.

During the discussions we explored scenes from relationships that many of us have experienced. We discussed how various football terms could be compared to our living out the dozens of experiences that evolve as our relationships grow.

The outcome of that initial First And Goal Seminar was an invigorating, interactive and exciting growth experience for all the couples who attended. It was hilarious and yet it was informational.”

Imagine questions like these being tossed around a group of men and women talking about their relationship experiences:

Who is the quarterback in your relationship?

Who calls the plays?

Are you trying to play without huddling?

Are there too many players on the field?

Has unsportsmanlike conduct ever been experienced in your relationship?

Do you have a mentor or relationship coach who can call in plays from the bench?

This provides a very small glimpse of the power of First and Goal Seminars©. From this amazingly simple beginning First And Goal Seminars, and soon, “First and Goal-The Book”, and “First And Goal – the Game” continues to grow and impressive following among a diverse group of fans.

Who’s invited to become a player? Just about anyone:

Company Managers, seeking a different approach to Corporate Team Building Retreats

Church Leaders, in search of Out Of The Box Programing to grow new interest for Marriage Ministries that are not reaching their full potential

Single or Married Individuals interested in achieving the breakthroughs they’ve dreamed about for years!

Whether or not you’re a fan of the game of football, you will find this highly interactive game a fun way to learn relationship skills for nearly any group, be it singles, married couples, young adults or seniors. And few team building experiences provide takeaways with the impact of First And Goal!

First And Goal is for YOU!

For More Details or to Schedule A Session…. Contact Estelle Keese Today!

Email:MamaE@ First And Goal Seminars.com
Call: 1-888-417-6680 (toll-free)
Or 904-536-2676

Your Questions About Marriage Advice For Women

Mama E — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 16:36:57 +0000

Mandy asks…

I need marriage advice (men and women please)?

I’ve been married almost 5 years, together 8…the last 3 years have been an uphill battle for me. We have 2 beautiful children and he is an amazing father in that I have been very blessed.

However, our relationship is barely breathing (at best). We don’t ever really talk unless I force it and I hate fighting so I usually don’t unless it’s important. He’s distant, all he wants to do is sit in front of the tv and watch sports or play ps3. We both work full time jobs and I don’t ask him to cook or clean or do much really. I pay all the bills, I do it all. This is not a man bashing event, I assure you I love him very much.

My problem is that in the past year especially i’ve asked him to please communicate with me, acknowledge me, just anything. He says he will and he never does. We LIVE together and there have been weeks 2 or 3 that have gone by without so much as a kiss (not because i haven’t tried)?? He’s way too chill and at home to be having an affair it’s just like he doesn’t care? I have tried talking, crying, begging him to come to counseling with me, i’m just not sure I can do this for 3 or 4 more years i’m 25 and i’ve been with him so long I don’t want to be 45 and still feel the way I have for these past few years. I need attention, affection, I kind of feel like that’s a requirement for marriage. His response is always just that he’s tired and he’s trying. I am not a princess or a demanding wife, but I feel like i’m dying somedays like WE are dying. Any advice? Suggestions? We’ve discussed divorce but I feel ridiculous filing for divorce because my husband ignores me…does this make sense to anyone else?

Mama E answers:

You will wake up at 45 sadly and feel worse than you do now, if things don’t change. He has to love you and care enough about the marriage to change his ways. But here it is in a nutshell. Why would Mr Thoughtless, give up Mrs Thoughtful? He wouldn’t…would he? So this is on you’re shoulders, because you’re the one that’s not happy and I feel for you.

You don’t have to divorce him but he does need a wake up call. So decide on a strategy that will help you make your point.. For some, moving out for a short time provides the motivation. Others work through their minister and set up pastoral counseling.

If your choice is the moving out strategy, do it while he’s out and leave him a heartfelt letter as to why you left. Stay with a friend or family members and do not let him sucker you back till YOU feel he finally gets it. Make him sweat.

Be blessed…

Donna asks…

would like to know why my husband goes to another woman for advice about our marriage?

my husband is always running to this other woman talking about our marriage concerns with her ! this lady is single doesn’t have a man ! yet he goes and cries to her when there is something wrong !instead of coming to me his wife ! im wondering if there is something more being ive seen the ways he looks and talks to her ! do you think i should be concerned !

Mama E answers:

Life is about balance, and relationships thrive on it as well. In this case it is obvious your concerns are well founded as your husband’s actions are out of balance with the path one would take to enjoy a healthy and balanced relationship with the love of their life.

If you have not done so already, it is time to confront him with your needs…and concerns.

Be blessed…

Chris asks…

Advice from women: What advice would you give to your son or brother about dating, relationships, etc?

I’m convinced that a big part of the gender wars is that women, in particular, our mothers teach men very little about the opposite sex and how to be successful with the opposite sex. Women and men train their daughters and give them perspective about dating, relationships, marriage etc. Daughters are cherished, coddled, and protected in regards to these issues. Men however are left to fend for themselves and have to resort to trial and error in this arena. For those who find success, they’re able to build and maintain intimate relationships with the opposite sex and are highly sought after. For those who don’t find success, they’re the losers, the creepy guys, the desperate, and the lonely. Why our women failing our boys and young men in this arena? It seems that women even want superiority here as well.

Mama E answers:

While your assessment sounds logical and speaks from a commonly held point of view, it is greatly generalized and doesn’t fit how relationships are actually designed to live.

Contrary to how this scenario is playing out, relationships are not supposed to be a battle of the sexes.

Something happens following the exchange of vowels that can set a marriage on a different course, especially when relationship partners are not paying attention to each other.

…. And in regard to relationships, many of them are started without a commitment that includes fairness, friendship and mutually agreed upon rules of engagement. The relatively recent Chris Brown/Rihanna incident demonstrates what occurs when relationships have headed down different paths and neither partner in the relationship realized it until they arrived at a moment of truth….

Be blessed…

Linda asks…

Men&Women of God,need marriage advice badly. ONLY SERIOUS ANSWERS PLEASE!?

Here is my situation: I have been married to my husband for 2 and a half years. Nothing has gone right at all in this time,my marriage has been rocky and terrible. He has been emotionally abusive and has what seems like personality disorders,though he hasn’t officially been diagnosed with anything.Someone came along into my life and I am 99% sure that I am suppose to be with this person and is my soul mate. NOT the man I am married to. My husband is currently deployed and I am trying to make plans to start a new life that God wants me to have while he is gone(because if I did this while he is home I worry for my safety). I don’t mean to cheat or anything like that,I seriously believe God is wanting me to go with this other person(whom is a man of God,unlike my husband). But I am going through a spiritual war with myself ,should I just ignore this whole thing and maybe face consequences for straying away from God’s plan for me? Or..should I just leave it all behind and follow God’s will no matter how much I don’t understand why and it hurts? Can anyone offer advice at all or help in any way?

(Also we have no children together in case anyone is wondering.)
And also,since everyone thinks I need to work my marriage out because of no cheating…there HAS been adultery on both parts in the past.

Mama E answers:

You state you believe in God… And your words imply both you and your deployed husband have been unfaithful in the past. Here’s my message;

The timing is not good for you to consider pursuing another relationship. Your spirit is jumbled and what is starting now is a series of trials that God is presenting to guide you to a higher reward. And it is definitely not intended that you will live with the intruder that is currently treading inside your marriage.

The fact that you have reached out for a serious answer sends a strong message that God’s intentions for you are making their way into your higher mind.

And your words imply you are not totally comfortable with the relationship with your “soul mate.” And there is an obvious reason for this discomfort.

It is very common for a woman living inside your experience to move directly into another abusive relationship. Please seek the good counsel of your pastor or a spirit based relationship coach. You are on the verge of a miraculous breakthrough. However, not with this man and not in this period of time.

….. Be blessed…

Steven asks…

Advice to Spice Up A Marriage for Women?

My wife is kind of a tomboy and raising two kids is tough work. She doesn’t really dress nice or wear any makeup. However we are at a point where we want to spice up the marriage.

I offered to help her take care of the kids and clean the house and also worked out and lost a lot of weight.

Does anyone know of any good advice for wives to turn husbands on? Thanks.

Mama E answers:

There are several great books that make excellent manuals that can guide you toward your goal:

Romantic Lovers
Authors David & Carole Hocking offer a guide for establishing more joyful and satisfying intimacy with your partner.

Intended for Pleasure
Authors Ed Wheat, M.D. and Gaye Wheat have put together a practical Christian manual for sexual intimacy, complete with illustrations, for cultivating joyful and enjoyable marital relations.

The Act of Marriage
Authors Tim & Beverly LaHaye offer valuable help to Christian couples in discovering new joy and sexual fulfillment in marriage.

Be blessed…

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Who Is The Quarterback In Your Relationship?

Mama E — Fri, 21 Jan 2011 14:00:47 +0000

FIRST and GOAL© the Relationship Game!…If You Haven’t Seen It Call Mama E & Ask For A Demo”
When we think of the role of the quarterback in a football game we don’t have to think hard to figure out the role he plays… So, if we apply NFL rules, verbiage and titles to relationships, a very interesting….and entertaining series of circumstances appears.
For example, Who is the quarterback in your relationship? And who is the coach? Have You And Your Significant Other Ever Talked About Your Position In The Relationship?
Has Your Relationship Ever Experienced A Penalty Because of Too Many Players On The Field?”

Has “unnecessary roughness ever been a part of your relationship?”

Who makes the rules that guide the plays for your relationship?”

When your relationship is in a holding pattern and not gaining any yardage, who helps you gain at least some short yardage?”

The main goal for every NFL team is to get the ring. Have you piled on the yardage but never seem to score enough points to get the ring?

…Why not….Make a commitment to your relationship and Demo First and Goal in Jacksonville Florida or This Fall in Buffalo NY…
Spaces are filling so be sure to Call Mama E To Reserve Your Seat.

Call Mama E @ 1-888-417-6680 or email: mamae@mamaeanswers.com

If You’d Like To Play the First and Goal Game in your city, this is the number… 1-888-417-6680 or you can email: mamae@mamaeanswers.com while a few slots are still open. This Is A New Type Of Fun!

Yes, the game of football and relationships have more in common than you’ve ever imagined… & You can transform your relationship almost over night by playing First and Goal or attending a First and Goal Focus Group.
Call Mama E NOW & get your questions answered or reserve your seat… 1-888-417-6680 or email: mamae@mamaeanswers.com

If you and your friends or workplace associates or club members would enjoy an entertaining, informative and transformational lunchtime, work time or evening event, call Mama E and schedule a First and Goal Focus Group. It’s like nothing you’ve ever experienced…or enjoyed.

You can reach Mama E by calling 1-888-417-6680

You can also email Mama E at Mama E@MamaEAnswers.com

Your Relationship Is Vulnerable to Too Many Players On The Field

Mama E — Tue, 11 Jan 2011 12:48:17 +0000

What position do you play in your relationship? Coach? Quarterback? Do you have too many players on the field causing your relationship to experience unnecessary penalties?

If you know American style football then you’ll relate to the idea of First and Goal Focus Groups. This funny, creative and sports themed relationship coaching session is the brainchild of Mama E, AKA Estella Keese.

Mama E is a seasoned relationship coach and has led a weekly series of relationship workshops for more than 10 years. She recently launched First and Goal Focus Groups to respond to singles and couples who’ve seen videos of these lively sessions.

In her words, “Relationship partners are able to interact in a group setting that opens the door to dramatic changes in their relationships. Within 60 minutes of leaving the session, the relationship is totally different…in a good way.”

Call Mama E toll free at 1-888-417-6680.Get the details for scheduling a First and Goal Focus Group in your area. (These sessions are also great fun on campus)

First and Goal Seminars Jacksonville Kick Off!

Mama E — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 08:11:20 +0000

First and Goal, a highly interactive relationship focus group and seminar series, debuted to an enthusiastic audience of couples in Jacksonville Florida on Monday, May 4th 2009.

New Covenant Ministries of Jacksonville Florida hosted the event as part of their monthly series of Marriage Enrichment events.

First and Goal Focus Groups, is the newest creation of Mama E’s Estella Keese, relationship coach. Keese acknowledges, “Relationships are under stress more than ever during the current economic and social crisis being experienced on a world-wide level”

“First and Goal provides a fun and uniquely interactive forum for talking about relationships. We use football concepts. For example, the “coach” has access to both the playbook and the quarterback’s earpiece. He is responsible for evaluating the situation and making the best decisions”

Keese continues, “I think this is an important position for the husband to fill in a relationship. As head of the family, he must get directions from God to ensure a successful outcome of the relationship. Some of the practice sessions we share are absolutely hilarious, and transformational”

Sponsored by In Him Ministries Inc, a Florida based non-profit organization that supports marriage and relationship coaching; the First and Goal focus groups are off to an amazingly successful start.

Keese keeps busy with her blogs, MamaEAnswers.com and AskMamaE.blogspot.com.

Mama E is also attracting a large following on Twitter.

An active writer, author, Mama E’s upcoming book, “What’s Love Got To Do With It,” may evolve into a play.

Her take on this is, “I believe the First and Goal focus groups will provide the basis for the weekend retreat series I’m planning for late summer and early fall. Relationships need this support and are responding enthusiastically”

Mama E is now filling her schedule for speaking engagements four weeks in advance. Program planners and others can call toll free 888-417-6680 for information and to schedule Mama E to speak at your event.

Check this site regularly for the latest information about First and Goal Seminars, a fast growing international relationship and marriage enrichment and coaching workshop, based on themes derived from American style football.